I'm 1/2 way to 20. Should I stay in or get out of the Navy?

Am married to Navy MA. We have a 2 year old and would like more kids. I am due to go back to sea for 5 years (3 if they approve the spousal co-location). I'm the mom, so wouldn't be able to nurse if we get pregnant now or during my sea-tour. My hubby may be getting kicked out soon (PFA). Still want the bennies. Don't like the IA stuff. Wanted to get stationed in VA again to buy home, but Navy has no money to send us. They can send us to Japan though. I really don't know what to do. If I get out, they have to send me back to East Coast (home of record). If I stay in I can go on a Pacflt cruise (Only have done Med, Gulf, Baltic). If I get out, I want to be a teacher (K-2 or Preschool), but I have no degree yet. Please help. Feel free to e-mail me or this one also!I'm 1/2 way to 20. Should I stay in or get out of the Navy?
I was in the same boat with the Army. I toughed it out. My wife pushed me to stay on, and it worked out. The last couple of years were the hardest, and easiest, of them all. I won't say that it was a cake walk, but knowing that I ONLY had 10 years, 8 years, 1 year to retirement made a difference. If I had gotten out, I think that I would be kicking myself for not staying.



My brother got out of the Navy after 10 years, and went to work as a contractor. He and his family have moved 4 different times since he got out, so the moving part is still there. BUT, he is happy with his decision. I told him he was nuts, he was half way there, etc. But, he had had enough.



The ultimate decision on this is between you and your husband. You will have to weigh the pros and cons. I, personally, think that if your halfway there, and don't have your degree yet, then you should stay. But, then again, I've already passed the hump.



Good luck, and thank you for your service.
It depends on your financial status. Which is better for you? Why do you have to get pregnant now, that can wait awhile, until you return from your sea duty.



Why is your husband getting kicked out of the military and what will he do to find a job near where you are stationed or any place as far as that is concerned? What are his plans to contribute to the family financial pile?



What will you do if you got out of the military, you indicated you want to be a K-preschool teacher. In which state do you plan to do this if you got out. How are you to getting your degree? You can complete your degree while still on active duty. You should contact the state in which you want to teach and see if they will accept your credits or diploma that you are working toward while on active duty. In most states they require you to take a test before being certified as a teacher.



Taking all that into consideration now what is better for you to do? Stay in or get out.



It appears to me that both you and hubby will be in the job market once you are discharged from the military. If he is

"KICKED OUT" what type of position do he expect to get? How long can the both of you do without an income if both of you are discharged?



I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.



"FIGHT ON"I'm 1/2 way to 20. Should I stay in or get out of the Navy?
i dont understand your situation very well but from what i gather,heres my two cents:

first of all your family comes first.if your young (like 18-25) then go ahead and stay with the navy until you have your degree.but if your older than that then you probably wont be able to have a baby.cause when you get older you may think its not a very good idea or you might have health problems,exc... if you stay will you be able to be with your husband and child? if not then i would not do it...i would have already got out if at all possible. i am sure you could get a good job or im sure your husband could get one as well...maybe one good enough so you can stay home and be with your children. or if he can stay in the military then just you quit and stay with him for a while until he gets out...

and what does pfa mean? what did he do to be getting kicked out?

well anyways im not sure of the complete situation,but remember that family always comes first above all else..then your job
I commend you for having a family within the military. I am an Army Reservist that finished her active duty. I got pregnant in the military and I was about to become an E-6 and I chose my son. You will still have a lot of the military benefits. Have you thought of becoming reserve. you can stay stateside and maintain your benefits. I remember being in the Army and my CO making the comment when I was pregnant that the Army comes first and my child comes second. I knew then that I would not retire from the military. So really think about it. Ultimately it is a decision that you will have to make with your family. I wish you the very best!
I got out at 13. I don't regret it one bit. It was a hard transition, but I'm stable now and life is good. There came a point in time when i was able to say "I had enough" and that was that. I quit. You should listen to that inner voice. It will serve you well, especially when confronted by people who want you to stay. Stay true to yourself. be authentic.
Well, how about this??/ Get out of the navy and join another branch of the military? I did it. Now I'm in the Air Force and I loveeee it.
I got out after 6 years and did just fine. I bet you will do ok in life.
i would stay...dont you get a big retirement package?if so stay! you will regret it later if you dont!



my husband kicks himself in the butt every day for not joining when he had the chance. he says this all the time and it always bothers him because he knows he would have had a better life for us if he did.we have 3 children.



he would have made a good marine.
well first of all it sounds like no matter what you choose to do, its going to be a long road. i hope you go with what ur heart tells you and not what the majority vote is on this question lol. my opinion is get out. yes the benefits for staying in are very very nice (my hubby was in the Marines, only for 4 yrs tho.) the main reason i say to get out is that if u go over seas and ur hubby is getting out soon your marriage could get messy since you wont be together very much. theres nothing worse than being separated from the one you love. since hes getting out first he needs to find a new job with benefits. preferably he should have one lined up before he gets out. otherwise debt may creep up on you and cause more problems. i know this from my recent experience. and as long as he has a job with benefits you can get out and follow your teacher dream (u can become a teachers aid or work for a child development center etc. while you go to school or if ur hubby makes enough u can go to school and be mommy full time instead). as long as u r attending school for teacher credentials u should be able to become a teacher during your courses. as for more babies...that is completely ur choice as to when u r ready. ok, my prayers are with u and i hope you r happy with whatever path u decide to take. gl2u! =)
Depending on your MOS you could get out and land a better paying job and if you still like the navy join the Naval Reserve that way you've still got your foot in the door. I'd also look at the other services' Reserve you may be able to leverage this situation.



I'm in the Army Reserve and I have friends who got out of the Navy and joined our Service and did well, all you have to do is find the right program.